A Complete Guide On How To Survive A Fictional Crush

Have you ever had a Fictional Crush so bad that all you want to do is base your entire personality around that character? Whether it be a character from a book or a movie I have compiled a guide to get you through this.

Not to be too technical but did you know that this is called a Parasocial relationship? Yes, there’s a real name for it, so don’t worry, we’re in this together.

Or neologism which describes an attraction or deep affection for fictional characters in books, anime, cartoons, comics, stories, etc

This post is all about the ultimate guide to surviving a fictional crush.

Who Was Your Last Fictional Crush?

My current fictional crush is Damon from The Vampire Diaries [if you don’t want spoilers skip on to the next section].

I got the idea for this post last night while I was self-caring [rotting] in bed and rewatching The Vampire Diaries. This show is my latest hyper fixation and for very good reason.

The Reason:

I was watching season 3 episode 10 last night, the episode when Stefen is off being all mean and broody, and Damon and Elena are spending a lot more time together.

Damon: ‘I thought, for one second, I wouldn’t have to feel guilty anymore

Elena: ‘guilty for what?’

Damon: ‘For wanting what I want’

When I tell you I sat bolt upright in bed and clapped. I literally had butterflies! And it got better.

Damon: ‘No, No. You know what. If i’m going to feel guilty about something, i’m going to feel guilty about this’

And they kiss

I haven’t felt those butterflies for a fictional crush in a hot minute.

Weird Fictional Crushes

When I was a teenager I used to stay up late into the night reading romance books such as ‘Anna and the French Kiss’. In this book Anna moves to France to attend the fictional boarding school called the ‘School of America in Paris’. It is here she meets the charming and gorgeous Étienne St. Clair. I read this whole book in one night, staying up until the early hours of the morning before my alarm went off for school.

Teenage me used to love a good romance book. They would give me butterflies and leave me obsessing about fictional men I never had to meet for days or weeks. The heart wants what it can’t have.

Another one of my favourites was ‘The Mortal Instruments Series’ and the slightly problematic relationship between Clarissa and Jace who later turned out to be siblings, and then not again. My fictional crush for the duration of those 6 books became Jace, and 14 year old me could not read enough of him.

Your official guide to surviving a fictional crush

Essentially, the true makings of a fictional crush is someone who cannot hurt you, disappoint you, and expects nothing of you. Pretty perfect right? Sometimes it best to embrace it and sometimes it’s best to break the spell.

Embrace the End (Or Don’t)

Fictional crushes fade naturally… usually when:

You finish the book/series
A new character appears
You heal emotionally
You develop a crush on someone who actually exists
You reread and wonder “why did I fall so hard for this man who makes terrible decisions?”

And if it doesn’t fade?
Congrats, permanent emotional support character unlocked.

Maintain Real-Life Functioning

You are still required to:

Eat actual meals (not “forgot to eat because chapter 32 ruined me” meals)
Sleep (they’ll still be fictional tomorrow)
Touch grass (at least once a week)
Resist the urge to compare everyone to your fictional love, they’re written by a committee, with revisions

Your fictional crush is not meant to replace real life — more like… enhance it, like seasoning.

Make it official

Embrace it and make it official.

At ‘Marry Your Fictional Character Online’, you can have a fictional marriage where you can even get a marriage certificate.

Channel the Energy

Instead of spiraling helplessly:

Write: fanfiction, character analysis, or poetic yearning.
A place that all the loved up souls go to read of write even more about their fictional crush is wattpad. This one should come with a warning, Wattpad is a very strange place. And it may not be healthy if you and you’re fictional crush are needing some… time apart.
Create: playlists, moodboards, sketches
Talk: join fandom spaces, forums, or absurd group chats
Move: go for a walk while imagining them confessing their love for you (scientifically proven to improve cardiovascular health and ego)

Turn the obsession into creativity.

Break the Spell

If it’s time to let go, write down a list of their best and worst qualities on a piece of paper and burn it! Watch the paper go up in flames and imagine the smoke is breaking the spell of infatuation

Dealing with the loss of a Fictional character

Remember it’s okay to grieve, put down the book or turn off the tv, grab a box of tissues and some snacks. Snacks fix everything.

Over exposure therapy

Binge every media your fictional crush appears in until you simply do not like them anymore.

Contingency Plan

Do you have a backup fictional crush ready when this one inevitably self-destructs, dies, betrays someone, or does something morally ambiguous but hot?

This Post was all about the ultimate guide for getting over a Fictional crush

Who was your last fictional crush?

A Complete Guide On How To Survive A Fictional Crush

Who Was Your Last Fictional Crush?

My current fictional crush is Damon from The Vampire Diaries [if you don’t want spoilers skip on to the next section].

Weird Fictional Crushes